03 September 2011

Saturday silliness... sure 'nuff!

Even Tink looks unsettled... still a cool night light.
Today is going to be full of silliness - in hopes that it will relieve some of the anxiety and tension in the littlest member of the house.  We've got a tent up in the living room, just like we used to do when Sissy was home.  We're going to make some zucchini bread, just like we used to do when Sissy was home.  We're having spaghetti for supper, just like we used to do when Sissy was home.

Do you see a theme here?  I sure hope so because subtlety is not my strong point.

Hobbit has been dealing with a lot of changes in her life, and she doesn't do well with change.  These aren't little changes either - they are huge changes.  Pokey's work schedule has him getting home after she's already in bed for the night so she may not see him for more than a few minutes a day.  Peanut has gone away to college and her Skype isn't set up yet so she hasn't had a conversation with her for a bit.  Hobbit started a new school with new kids and new teacher... we even had to rehouse one of our dogs.  Her whole life has been turned around and someone shook it just like her Tinkerbell night light.

All of this changed has caused Hobbit a bit of anxiety.  We have had full blown melt downs - irrational fear, uncontrollable crying and barely controllable asthma attacks... it's frustrating and heartbreaking all at the same time.  So today, I have a plan.  It might work, it might not but it's worth a try.

You see, Peanut went from just the two of us to everyone so her life became fuller... Hobbit has gone from everyone down to just the two of us (most of the time since Pokey's schedule right now isn't very family friendly) so her life has become emptier.  I didn't have to do a lot of convincing to make Peanut appreciate all the changes - she was over the moon when it all happened for her.  Her family grew double in size in a few short years.  Her mental picture of the perfect life was complete.  It was an easy transition.  Hobbit feels as though she has lost everyone in one fail swoop!  So what am I going to do - this...

My fearless campers - watching Disney Channel as they "rough" it.
The tent went up this morning so she could spend the day in it, sleep in it tonight and play in it all day tomorrow until Pokey comes home to take it down after work.  Later this afternoon, I'm going to crawl in there (heaven help me) and we're going to write a list.  This list is going to be about all the fun stuff we can now do together, just the two of us.  I'm going to show her the positive light of all this change and how it can be difficult to see the good when you feel like you're surrounded by so much that is bad.  I hope that this works as well as I envisioned...

Fingers crossed.


  1. That is excellent that you are taking the time for her and to show your understand her feelings! There is no way it can't work. :) Tell Hobbit to hang in there.

  2. You sound like a wonderful thoughtful parent - hope you all get into a new rhythm soon (((hugs)))


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